Taken from Osho’s October newsletter on women:
Recently, Satya Nadella, the new Microsoft CEO, created a storm among working women with his casual statement at the Grace Hopper Celebration of Women in Computing: “It’s not really about asking for the raise, but knowing and having faith that the system will give you the right raises as you go along.…”
There was uproar among women in the Microsoft Corporation, who are paid overall 78% of what equally qualified men received, and all over the U.S. there were many comments and tweets condemning Nadella’s chauvinistic attitude. This remark in TIME magazine represents the bitterness of all women regarding the gender bias: “Smile pretty and don’t be so unbecoming as to ask for a salary bump. After all, a raise is a lot like a male suitor, and if you pursue it, you might just drive it away.”
When I read this, I had been writing about the divine feminine. I don’t know if a statement has ever felt so nauseating. I don’t feel it’s in the nature of women to pursue. It’s unnatural, and demonstrative of how completely out of whack it all is. It did propel me to look at where I’ve been in this kind of pursuit. It just makes me shake my head. I can see the pursuit in my own family.
This fall I went to an art studio of a very established older male painter. My friend had worked with him, and she thought that maybe they needed more help on the sales floor and that I may be a good fit there. I went in and I walked through the gallery attempting to take in his work. I finally rounded a corner where only a few paintings were on the wall and there I sat. I began to experience a power in the work. I watched a video about his process. All very inspiring. I then was approached by the head coordinator, a female, and she and I connected beautifully. We walked out toward the painting studio where I met the artist, and something very surprising happened. I started to shift. It was so quick, almost imperceptible. The meeting place of our two energies, took me directly to a role of myself that I knew very well, that I suppose I used as a woman. But I was watching it. This hadn’t happened in so long. I got such a read on how he was with women, and an even more important read how I had a deep pattern, a created character like Marilyn Monroe, to directly give this guy energy, give him what he wanted. To me this is the pursuit.
My parents were born in the early 20’s, and were very non traditional. I was in constant debate with my father growing up. We challenged each other. I felt completely safe in doing so. Now my mother used to hear from her mother that women were to be seen and not heard. I am one person removed from this attitude.
All I can really say is it is an interesting time to be female. To be anything for that matter. We are busting through stereotypes as fast as we can. Shedding skins, breathing into personal freedom, longing to be true. I respect the giants of Feminism. I am doing my best to stare this cosmic joke right in the face. It is deeper than any of us can truly comprehend. To have to defend women on any level is beyond ludicrous. Onward.